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Why Matchmaking Matters to Me…

As a double Gemini who loves helping people, learning new things, and endless variety, I’ve spent decades working in various fields: being a psychotherapist specializing in complex trauma, attachment, & relationship dynamics, a yoga & meditation teacher, a headhunter in NYC, a make-up artist in LA…

And as Uranus (planet of innovation, awakening, and evolution) moved into Gemini (sign of communication and connection) in the first house of my birth chart (representing the self), I began to dream again of a calling I’ve had since childhood.

* I recently found out that I have several astrological placements in common with Bravo’s “Millionaire Matchmaker”, Patty Stanger, which made my jaw drop, as it explained so much about my lifelong passion to help people in their quest for healthy love relationships.

But years before I knew anything about astrology or psychology, I was just a scrappy 8 year-old child at home alone watching the 80’s dating game show “Love Connection”, utterly enthralled- and strangely dreaming that I too might be able to help people connect with their soulmates one day.

“What kind of child longs to do this work??” you may reasonably be wondering.

I’m not sure, but I believe the soul always knows what’s meant to be.

One thing is clear. I knew how important our choice of partner was from observing my parent’s intense (insane) relationship- and all the consequences and fallout that came from them loving each other fiercely but never having the faintest clue what a healthy relationship might look like. And of course I’ve learned from my own challenges, as well as countless client experiences, about just how complex this path can be.

My passion to help people find lasting love became reignited while practicing psychotherapy over the past decade. I was astounded to consistently hear from all of my beautiful, intelligent, successful, and kind-hearted clients (as well as from my lifelong friends and throngs of strangers online…) about how difficult it can be to find desirable, available, long-term love partners.

I was stumped. Why was meeting someone great such a challenge for even the most charming and attractive people I knew?

In the under-appreciated glory years of the pre-2000’s it was taken for granted that initiating conversations with interesting strangers in public was normal, advisable, and frankly just the easiest way to meet new people. Sadly, this simple human exchange has come to an incomprehensible and tragic demise. These days, people bury themselves in devices and barely look around at life, let alone one another.

I feel called to bring people back together again- and this time in a more conscious and spiritually evolved way. It breaks my heart that so many have lost hope of finding love that is wonderful and real. Fortunately I believe challenges arise to help us evolve and make ourselves even stronger. I am here to help men and women rebuild a sense of openness and trust in each other- and in what is possible together.

And, I’m in a compelling position to bridge the divide because I am a straight woman, who has two precious sons, and relates most naturally with straight men. My unusual upbringing created a strong avoidance pattern in me that men often live with- encouraged as they are by society to not have feelings, depend on no one, and be emotionally contained. This is not an easy template for living a relational existence, and the current climate vilifies adaptations men were forced to make as boys just to survive.

Women face deep, systemic, societal challenges as well, being taught that direct self-expression, appropriate anger at injustice, and clear personal boundaries are not acceptable. This leads to suppressed emotion, silent resentment, and eventually physical illness.

I aim to foster an environment of greater interpersonal respect and appreciation for the challenges involved in being a human of any kind. So many of us have not experienced the benefit of early environments which encouraged us to appreciate our authentic, vulnerable, lovable selves. But we can learn this way of being now.

I help individuals bring grace, compassion, self-awareness, and healthy standards into their relationships- and highlight that partnership is not meant to be a place we unconsciously rush to escape existential loneliness or the pain of a negative self-concept. Healthy relationships with others start from a healthy relationship with Self.

Embarking on this path will help you to wake up in the best way possible, to your life and your purpose for being here. You can emerge as the version you intended to become when you incarnated here on Earth. It’s in our power to send a wave of healing into our fractured yet beautiful world, one wonderful love story at a time.

And I must say, I am proud to be here now at 52, holding both the wisdom of maturity and every bit of my original childhood enthusiasm- honored to guide you to a whole new way of connecting with your Truest Self- and perhaps, your Destined Love.

Ready for a life of love and connection?

If you’ve gotten this far, I believe that you are.

Welcome!

* If you know your birth time, we can consult your astrological chart for compelling insights regarding your ideal romantic partner- and even where they can most likely be found.